Tuesday, June 29, 2010

10 Mental Post-It-Notes You Need to Keep Around (Read Time: 2 min.)

When life gets rough, tough or troubled, what do you say to yourself?

Do your thoughts build you up or beat you up?

Life has its moments. Exhilarating, fulfilling, heart pounding moments... Crushing, life sucking, heart wrenching moments...

It's the adventure of a lifetime and what you choose to focus on in your life is exactly what you will produce more of... which is why it's so important to retain Mental Post-It-Notes that remind you what you believe when the going gets tough.

Here are 10 Mental Post-It-Notes You Need to Keep Around:
  1. My life is my choice. Life happens for me, not to me.
  2. I am bigger than my problems. For every problem, there are at least a hundred solutions.
  3. Everything works out for my highest good.
  4. I deserve the best and I accept it now.
  5. In every obstacle, I see greater opportunities.
  6. Only love is real. I choose love, not fear.
  7. Tough times don't last but tough people do. Out of this situation, only good will come.
  8. This too shall pass. Tomorrow is another day.
  9. I love my life & I am grateful for every breath I take.
  10. In any situation, I know two things: 1- God knows and 2- I know that God knows.

Use these 10 Mental Post-It-Notes for the next 30 days and you'll be amazed by how your life will transform!

Thursday, June 24, 2010

Don't Take Advice From People Who Use These Words (Read Time: 2 min.)

Advice is a subjective word. Far too often, we take advice from people who are least qualified to give it. It's important to live consciously, to pay close attention to what people say, even closer attention to what they do, and a strong inclination towards how what they say makes you feel.

In tonight's Not Built to Be Broken teleseminar, I'll be discussing what to do with the "good" opinions of other people, especially when those opinions aren't good for you.

Here's one quick and easy way to know the difference:
Avoid taking advice from people who constantly
use the words "always", "never", "can't" and "should."

In one of the Star Wars movies, Obi Wan says a powerful thing "Only siths deal in absolutes." Life is not black and white. It's a huge realm of grey, a blank canvas from which we can draw, paint or create anything. When you say "always" or "never", you're living in the black and white realm and guess what? Nothing that's asserted from that realm could possibly be true. If life is "always" one way or the other, there's no room for growth, change, or transformation. People who believe in "never" squeeze miracles out of their lives.
If there's one thing in life I've learned, it's this:
Never and always do not apply. The opportunities for transformation are unlimited.

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

Prayed Up or Preyed On? (Read Time: 3 min.)

In tomorrow night's teleseminar, I'm going to talk about how to deal with toxic family members. It's one thing to find that a person in your life is not good for you. It's a whole other can of worms when the person who's not good for you is a member of your own family.

You can disown the person but you can't completely disregard the connection.

And this is where I'm taking this... In my latest book, Not Built to Be Broken, I say the following:

You can make pain about being broken or you can see pain as being a lesson and the people who contribute to it as being your teachers. No matter how you look at it, there’s an investment in brokenness that will never give you a return. You’re infinite, unlimited and you never run out of chances to change your life. If that’s true, you can’t possibly be broken by anything. No matter how bad the situation seems, no matter how grim the outlook appears, you weren’t built to be broken. You were made to be free and if pain is your prison, you are the jailer. No one else but you can do that.

And here's my point: When the person who hurts you most is supposed to be the person who knows and loves you best, you've got to be able to separate your compassion for them from your susceptibility to them. You can pray for someone's change but you cannot deliver them to that change... and you don't have to be their punching bags while they go through the process.

Bottomline: Pray for toxic family members but DO NOT be preyed on by them.

Sunday, June 13, 2010

This Week's Teleseminar: Why Difficult Times & Awful People Show Up In Our Lives (Read Time: 1 min.)

Ever heard of Murphy's Law?
Has anyone ever said to you "When it rains, it pours"?

The truth of life is this: bad things will happen.

But what is also true is this:
Tough times don't last but tough people do.

Join me this Thursday for a call that explains why these "trying" times are not meant to break us down. To sign up, put your name and email in the sign-up box and log-in and class materials will be sent straight to your inbox.

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