One of my all-time favorite movies is "Say Anything." Do you remember John Cusack standing in the driveway with that boombox? Girl's romantic dream, right? Kind of...When I sit to think about what that movie means to me, it goes beyond some high school love story about boy from the wrong tracks and girl from the good (but not so good) family. It's about more than beautiful lines, goofy approaches, and uncomfortable silences.
When I think about that movie, I think about the one simple fact that I've learned about love:
When you're with the right person, you can say anything...
and not be afraid that he or she is going to disapprove, ridicule, or walk away.
Like the movie, there are so many times in life when people say "You can tell me anything" (translation: tell me what I want to hear that will continue to make me like you). But, few and far between can stand in the silence with you. Even fewer can live through the pain with you, see you at your lowest moment and still look at you as if you were the strongest person they knew. That's what it means to say anything...
At the end of the day, I got my guy holding the boombox in my driveway. He literally went to the ends of the earth for me and never once lost the glimmer of the eye that says "You're amazing." How did I get from "Don't tell me what I don't want to know" to "Say anything"?Five things:
1) Acceptance of ALL of me.
2) Love for ALL of that.
3) A willingness to trust and a trusting to know who to trust.
4) My continual resignation as Manager of the Universe.
5) My firm belief that "Write me" is only something to say to people I choose to write off :)
It's not always easy but it's definitely worth it.
Do you have someone you can say anything to?
Many people should read this before marriage. It may be difficult to find that one person whom you can say anything to, but when you do it is worth it.
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